Problems are leader's opportunity to demonstrate their worth. Do so by making the 'unimportant' important when working with someone who is disgruntled. Clarence Garner discussed the difference between dealing with Difficult People or Difficult Situations. Conflict is often 10% because of an issue and 90% because of the tone the message was delivered in. Listen to Clarence discuss the Feel - Felt - Found strategy for delivering a message someone doesnt't want to hear. A powerful concept is describe by Clarence Garner by replacing 'erroneous assumptions' with 'positive intent'.